We welcomed a new baby into our family yesterday, September 17, 2015!  A healthy and handsome baby boy with a perfect little face, ten fingers, ten toes, a heart of gold and eyes full of wonder.  We are all so happy for my brother and sister-in-law.  I know they will be wonderful parents for they each have amazing qualities that if they are lucky, their little boy will emulate one day.  Welcome to the world of parenting, the hours are long, the venue is not always the most glamourous, and daily continuing education credits are required, but the pay…

My children are SO excited to have a new little cousin.  It bring me such joy to see the love in their eyes and to listen to them talk about the new baby as they flip through his pictures on my phone.  As I tucked them into bed tonight, I listened to the conversation swing from what they will play and what they will teach him as he grows up, to their own concerns about school tomorrow and plans for the weekend.  One forgot her homework and does not want to miss recess because of a homework strike and one has a spelling test and is fearful he won’t be able to remember how to spell his teacher’s last name, which is on the test!  One would like to have a sleepover and the other wants a playdate with his new friend down the block.  Both are looking forward to the weekend, whatever it will bring.  I can’t say that I blame them, so am I!

I’m sure I’m not the only one that finds parenting a struggle that gets ever so slightly easier on the weekends.  In my case I think it is because I have less outside commitments on the weekends typically.  Regardless, this is by far the hardest job I’ve ever had.  Each morning I remind myself that it is a fresh start, a chance to make the day better than the one that came before it.  Each day is a chance to be the best that I can be in all aspects of my life, but most of all, as a mother to my beautiful children.  As I send them out into the big cruel world each day I try not to hover too closely.  I remind them to be kind, to be helpful and above all else, to be themselves.  I try to give them the freedom they need to find their own way so that they can be proud of who they are and to pursue whatever it is that they want to do or be.  I want them to always be comfortable in their own skin.

I also try very hard to give them the ability to make their own mistakes and to fight their own battles in the hope that they will learn from them as I did.  I try to teach them that there are consequences and rewards to every action and that it is up to them to know the difference between right and wrong.  I try to lead by example and I pray that God and their own special angels in heaven will guide them when I am not around, so that they will be well equipped to limit the mistakes to a few that are easily rectified without lasting or painful effects.  I try to remain calm when it seems the sky is falling, to remember that they are only children and to let them be little, for all too soon these years will be gone and there are no do overs.  I want them to have fond memories of their childhood that they will want to pass along to their own children one day.  I want them to have stories that bring them laughter and joy for decades to come, each and every time they are shared.  I want them to know that I love them very much and that if I could, I would never leave their side.  I want them to know that THEY are my whole world.  They are the reason I work so hard, the reason I pray so often, and the reason I cry myself to sleep some nights when I just don’t know how to soothe their pain or I can’t find the solution to the latest problem.  I want them to know that they are the reason I get up every morning and try again and they are the fuel that powers me through each and every day, not the 6 plus cups of coffee and chai tea they watch me guzzle.

Sometimes I fail miserably in this mission.  I think every parent has moments they regret, words they wish they could take back, precious time they wish they did not waste on less important things that seemed unavoidable at the time.  We are human after all and for the most part, we are each just fumbling through parenthood one day at a time…,but the pay…

This is the most rewarding job I’ll ever have, and to the new parents in our lives, I assure you, it will be for you as well.  Welcome to the company guys, hope you had a great first day on the job and we wish you all a lifetime of joy and laughter.